toxic friendship

How to Recognize a Toxic Friend

Toxic Friends

Toxic Friends: Less Friend, More Foe
“They put you down and expect you to pick them up, or drain the life right out of you for their own gain. With toxic friends like these, who needs enemies?”

10 Traits of a Toxic Friend
“1. Negative to the point of being insulting – You know the type, because you roll your eyes or gnash your teeth every time you see their posts on Facebook (if you haven’t hidden or blocked them yet). They’re always complaining, they never see the bright side, and they put you and other people down constantly.

2. Unsupportive – You’re always there for them, but they can’t be counted on to be there for you. They downplay (or even make fun of) your achievements and other things that are important to you.

3. Envious/jealous/possessive – They’re never truly happy for other people because they want what they have. And if they can’t have something, no one can.

4. Manipulative – They’re only nice when they need something, and know all the right buttons to push to make you comply – including emotional blackmail. If you can’t give them what they want, you can be sure there’ll be hell to pay in one way or another.

5. Selfish/Self-centered – If it’s not about them, or if it doesn’t benefit them, they just can’t be bothered.

6. Immoral – You may like them, but you know you can’t trust them. They’re dishonest and/or unethical and just generally bad news, and they don’t normally appreciate advice or judgement from people looking to steer them toward a better path.

7. Insincere – They pretend to like/support/be happy for you when they’re with you, but behind your back it’s a whole other story. Even when they’re “being nice,” there’s always some sort of catty kicker.

8. Unavailable – They expect you to be available for them whenever they need you, but when you’re the one who needs a friend, they’re too busy to pencil you in. (See #5: Selfish)

9. Inconsiderate – They don’t care that their demands are inconvenient, and when you do make sacrifices to accommodate them, they’re rarely even grateful.

10. A bad influence – They push you to do things you’re uncomfortable with, and egg you on to make bad decisions and poor life choices.”


Above points can be interpreted as requirements of friendship, if reader thinks that the list is complete, the points can be treated as definition of friendship.


When Should You Give Someone ‘The Benefit of the Doubt’?
“Trusting Yourself

The real issue is whether you are going to trust your gut feelings rather than what someone else says. It can be very easy for bright and charming people to say the things you want to hear, but is their behavior consistent with their words? If you feel confused, pay attention. Often, confusion indicates that the other person is not being honest.”