The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – Nathaniel Branden

What matters most is how you see yourself. an abstract from the above link:

Self-concept is destiny. If you have a high opinion of yourself, you’re more likely to get positive emotional feedback from others which will reinforce your strong self-image; if you have a low opinion of yourself, you’re more likely to get negative feedback from others, “proving” that you were right all along.

Healthy self-esteem correlates with:
ability to manage change
willingness to admit and correct mistakes
Poor self-esteem correlates with:
blindness to reality
fear of the new and unfamiliar
inappropriate conformity or inappropriate rebelliousness
over-compliant or over-controlling behavior
fear of, or hostility to, other people
“The union of two abysses does not produce a height.”
“Poor self-esteem places us in an adversarial relationship to our well-being”
Self-efficacy is the conviction that we are able to think, to judge, to know, and to correct our errors. It is trust in our mental processes and abilities. It is not the conviction that we can never make an error. It is trust in our processes, not necessarily in the outcomes.
“Self-esteem is not a substitute for the knowledge and skills one needs to operate successfully in the world. But it does increase the likelihood that one will obtain those skills.”
Physical manifestations of self-esteem:
eyes that are alert, bright, and lively
shoulders that are relaxed, yet erect
hands that tend to be relaxed and graceful
arms that tend to hang in an easy, natural way
a posture that tends to be unstrained, erect, well-balanced
a walk that tends to be purposeful
a voice that tends to be modulated with an intensity appropriate to the situation and with clear pronunciation “


The Six Pillars of Self Esteem, Dr. Nathaniel Branden

Self Esteem Mini-Course by Marisa Peer

Learning to Love Yourself | Amanda Jetté Knox | TEDxYouth@Nepean